How to motivate people

Mainly motivation of a person has two reason.

1. Pain
2. Pleasure

Either we do things to escape from pain or gaining some pleasure. For example if you are working on loosing some weight, the reason for doing so is to feel good or you are frustrated about your weight and appearance. If you are doing it for staying healthy, and feel good you are doing it for your pleasure aspect.

On the other hand, people those who see you always mention about your weight and appearance or you are tired of your weight as it is painful for you to move around and you want to avoid such painful events, then your motivating factor is pain.

So whatever you do, you are doing it for avoid pain or gaining pleasure. If you are working, you are doing it for gaining some money or you love to do it as it help you to have fun or meeting new people which you like. There are two aspects. One is to avoid pain and the other is to gain pleasure.

For example, you decided to loose some weight to avoid nagging by the people around you and avoid the pain of your bones which are aching due to your own weight.  During the course of the weight loss program, you have to avoid many things which gives you pleasure.   You have to avoid many dishes which you enjoy having it.   It would be a very difficult task for you.  You may need pushing from some outer source, very often, to complete the program.  You hate to do it but still you have to do it.

You know people going for skating or climbing mountains is doing it to get some pleasure or for enjoying that event.  They are ready to take the pain to reach the hight of the mountain.  Reaching the top of the mountain is their pleasure.  Many are doing it for pleasure.  But the guides who lead the trekking group is doing it for getting some money.  They are doing it for avoiding the pain.  Pain of lack of food and other necessities. 

But the important thing is that if you do something for getting the pleasure, then you would be enjoying while doing it even if it is painful.    For example climbing a mountain is a painful task.   But people enjoy it while doing it.  They never feel it is very difficult even though it is very difficult and painful and involve many activities and money.  Why they do not feel that pain or difficulty while climbing the mountain?  Answer to this question is the essence of motivation.

In short,  if you do something for the pleasure, whatever it is, you would never feel the pain.  On the other hand if you do something for avoiding the pain, it would be a painful task and you'll have to push yourself very hard to reach the goal.

When you know this truth, when you enjoy doing what you does, that is the true motivation.  Do it for pleasure.  Not for avoiding the pain.  That is what all the motivational "guru's" are trying to tell you.  Do whatever you does for the pleasure aspect.

If you want loose weight, imagine that healthy, skinny, happy and fit you in your dreams.  Imagine yourself running around with your kids or friends.  Imagine a situation where you can eat whatever you want eat and drink.  Then your loss weight program would be much easier than when you do it for avoiding the pain.

When you eat salads and vegetables and other healthy food, enjoy it. Don't think it is a burdensome task.   Eat only when you feel hungry.  When you feel hungry, what ever you eat will taste good.  If you are full, you wont feel good about the taste of salads.  So wait for you to feel hungry.  Keep away from places where food is freely available.  That is the trick of the game.

In short, find out the pleasure aspect of your goal. Pleasure side of your work or task in you hand.  Then imagine and feel how it would be if you complete the task.  It'll motivate you to do better than excellent. 

Now you know what makes a person motivated.  Reminding the pleasure aspect of the outcome is the best way to motivate one person.  Reminding the pain aspect will not last for ever.  Looking at the pleasurable moments will help people to forget the short term pain and difficulties.  So, if you truly want to motivate one person, help him to look at the pleasure aspect of the outcome. 

Reaching the height of the mountain is a pleasurable event.  That will help the climber to forget the short term pain and difficulties.  Living a healthy life will help people to leave their smoking habit.  Take out a pen and a paper and write down your goal in the top of the paper.  Divide the page in to two and then write down the pleasure aspect of the goal in the left side and pain aspect of your goal in the right side.  Create a picture of you when you complete that goal in your mind.  Create that colorful picture with the pleasure aspect of the goal and keep it will you always. Forget the pain aspect and go for it with a smiling face.

Focusing on pleasure aspect every day will help you to complete your goal fast and easy.  If you focus on the pain aspect of your goal, it would be very difficult for you to complete it and would take time and efforts.

What you want in your life, is it money, fame or leaving those bad habits?  Whatever is it, you can complete it with much ease, if you only focus on the pleasure aspect.  It would be a joy to follow your dreams if you focus on the pleasure aspect.  And that is the best way to do it.  Just go and do it.